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Make love to your woman without causing her discomfort

Among the many aspects of lovemaking often addressed in various articles, it's important to make her feel as good as you
Make love to your woman without causing her discomfort
Make love to your woman without causing her discomfort (Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images)
Among the many aspects of lovemaking often addressed in various articles, it's important to make her feel as good as you
You will have heard the phrase 'size matters' for a while now, as it has been flogged and punned to death. However, for some women, sex can be painful. This can happen due to a variety of reasons. Firstly, she might have a fear of being penetrated deeply in her vagina if she has either a very tight vaginal passage (regardless of lubrication during arousal) or she might have a psychological fear of penetration.
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The latter is a different subject and this quick guide addresses the former. A third reason could very well be if her partner is well endowed.
After the foreplay is over and you'll are ready for intercourse, make sure either one of you has taken contraceptive measures, the choice of which kind kind, of course, is up to you. Safe sex methods should always be followed. You will no doubt be really excited but bear in mind that she would also want you to go slow at first. If she is nervous, her vaginal muscles will contract, which can make penetration difficult. Allow her to use her hand to guide you inside her as this shows that you are ready to begin making love to her at her pace. However, it is best to use your judgement. If you both are reasonably experienced lovers, you'll will both know each other well enough to know what to do. Always stimulate her clitoris either orally or digitally, as that will increase her arousal and cause her vaginal muscles to relax.
Pay attention to how she reacts as you progress. It's best to go real slow at first and maintain that at a steady pace. Penetrate her fully for a few seconds then slowly pull out almost completely. Do this for a few strokes. It will have the added advantage of helping you please her longer as well as prevent you from getting excited too quickly and prematurely ejaculating which is disappointing for the both of you.
Some men tend to get too rough while there are other men who can't even begin the act properly. If the problem is with you, then that's another story but it is also important to know how experienced she is. It goes without saying that if she rarely has sex, she would be more susceptible to pain. She might psychologically even anticipate it. This is when you should take extra care to be gentle.
Lubrication is very important. Friction is your worst enemy when it comes to sex as it will feel bad for the both of you. As mentioned earlier, stimulate her erogenous zones to get her juices flowing. The wetter she gets, the less likely she will feel pain, regardless of your size.
As her pleasure increases, her breathing pace will become more ragged and when she starts to moan and gasp in pleasure, you will instinctively know that you are making all the right moves. At this point, you can increase the pace when you notice her becoming more active in her lovemaking. One of the joys of lovemaking is variation. So, feel free to make her gasp in unexpected ways. But remember, the initial part is where you have to be sensitive to her feelings.
In summation, when searching on how to best penetrate her, comfort should be your main concern. If the both of you know each others bodies well enough, you will ensure that there is little to no discomfort when penetrating which will assist in the both of you have a good sex life.
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Reagan Gavin Rasquinha

A technology, gaming, features and music journalist at the Times Group. I look after the international pages and review new music for Bombay Times and review Hollywood and International film releases for the Times of India.

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